Releasing Guilt with Internal Family Systems Therapy

The Nature of Guilt

Guilt often develops when parts believe we’ve caused harm or failed in some way. While guilt can sometimes motivate change, excessive guilt becomes a burden. IFS views guilt as carried by parts trying to protect us from future mistakes or social rejection.

Meeting the Guilty Parts

IFS invites clients to connect with the parts carrying guilt. These parts may replay memories, criticize actions, or overwhelm you with shame. By meeting them with curiosity instead of avoidance, you begin to understand their true intentions. Often, they are trying to keep you safe.

Understanding Protective Roles

Parts that hold guilt frequently develop after painful experiences, such as conflict, loss, or trauma. They may believe that holding onto guilt prevents repeating mistakes. In IFS therapy, these parts are reassured by Self and invited to release their burdens while still keeping their protective wisdom.

Moving Toward Forgiveness

As guilt-bearing parts unburden, clients often find space for self-forgiveness. This does not mean excusing harmful behavior but rather recognizing humanity and growth. IFS allows clients to integrate lessons without the weight of constant self-blame.

Freedom Beyond Guilt

Releasing guilt through IFS creates freedom to live more fully. Clients often report a greater sense of peace, healthier relationships, and the ability to engage with life from a place of Self-leadership rather than fear.

Call to Action:
If guilt is holding you back, IFS can help you release the weight. Book a session today.

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• Tilghman-Osborne, C., Cole, D. A., & Felton, J. W. (2010). Definition and measurement of guilt: Implications for clinical research and practice. Clinical Psychology Review, 30(5), 536–546.

• Woodyatt, L., Worthington, E. L., Wenzel, M., & Griffin, B. J. (2017). Handbook of the psychology of self-forgiveness. Springer.