Trauma That Looks Like “Why Do I Shut Down During Conflict?”: Freeze Responses and How ART Helps

When Conflict Triggers a Freeze Response

Why You Go Numb or Silent During Conflict

The freeze response is a biological survival instinct. When your brain detects danger and neither fight nor flight feels possible, it shuts down to protect you. This can happen during emotional conflict, arguments, or moments of perceived threat—even when no physical danger exists. If you’ve ever gone blank, felt disconnected, or watched yourself withdraw during difficult conversations, it may be a sign of trauma.

Where the Freeze Response Comes From

Freeze responses often originate from childhood environments where conflict was scary, unpredictable, or physically or emotionally unsafe. Adults who grew up around yelling, criticism, or chaos often learn to stay quiet or shut down to minimize harm. Likewise, adults who have been in abusive relationships or high-intensity environments may freeze automatically when tension arises. Your brain is trying to keep you safe based on old information.

The Impact of Freeze Responses on Relationships

Freezing can create misunderstandings, resentment, or emotional distance in relationships. You may struggle to express your needs or defend yourself, leaving you feeling powerless. Some people blame themselves for “not speaking up,” not realizing that their nervous system is reacting automatically. Over time, freeze responses can damage self-esteem, create communication issues, and leave you feeling disconnected from your own voice.

How ART Helps You Stay Grounded During Stress

ART helps the brain resolve the experiences that created your freeze response. As traumatic memories are reprocessed, your nervous system learns that conflict no longer equals danger. Clients often report feeling more grounded, articulate, and empowered after ART. The freeze response becomes less frequent, and emotional regulation improves. ART’s gentle process allows you to release the stored trauma without reliving the distress, leading to clearer communication and healthier connection.

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Peer-Reviewed References

• Kozlowska, K. et al. (2015). The freeze response in trauma. Frontiers in Psychology.

• van der Kolk, B. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score.

• Kip, K. et al. (2013). ART research. Behavioral Sciences.