Healing Shame and Rebuilding Self-Worth with Internal Family Systems Therapy

Understanding Shame in the IFS Model

Shame is often carried by exiled parts linked to past criticism, rejection, or trauma. Protectors may step in through perfectionism, avoidance, or people-pleasing to prevent further rejection. While protective, these strategies reinforce feelings of unworthiness.

The Power of Self-Energy

In IFS, healing begins when Self approaches shame-laden exiles with compassion. Instead of reinforcing avoidance, therapy helps you hear these parts and offer them care. This process dismantles shame and nurtures inner confidence.

Practical IFS Techniques for Shame

Clients learn to identify critical protectors, explore their origins, and offer reassurance. Healing shame requires both protecting exiles and gently releasing their burdens. Over time, these parts learn that worthiness doesn’t need to be earned—it is innate.

Benefits of IFS for Shame and Self-Worth

Clients often report increased self-confidence, improved relationships, and a more compassionate self-view. With shame reduced, authenticity and joy become more accessible.

Call to Action
IFS therapy can help you break free from shame and reclaim your self-worth. Schedule a session today.

References

• Tangney, J. P., & Dearing, R. L. (2002). Shame and guilt. Guilford Press.

• Schwartz, R. C., & Sweezy, M. (2019). Internal Family Systems Therapy (2nd ed.). Guilford Press.