Finding Self-Compassion with Internal Family Systems

Why Self-Compassion Feels Hard

Many clients come to therapy feeling stuck in cycles of self-criticism. Often, a critical part has been working hard to push them toward success or protect them from judgment, but at a steep emotional cost.

How IFS Helps Heal the Inner Critic

IFS provides a framework to approach the inner critic with curiosity instead of resistance. By understanding its role and fears, we can help it soften and allow more compassion to come forward.

The Role of the Self in Compassion

In IFS, the Self is naturally calm, curious, and compassionate. As clients access more Self energy, they discover new ways of relating to their parts—and to themselves—with greater kindness and acceptance.

The Benefits of Self-Compassion

Research shows that cultivating self-compassion reduces stress, improves resilience, and increases emotional well-being. With IFS, self-compassion isn’t forced; it emerges naturally through healing.

Call to Action

If you’re tired of being your own harshest critic, IFS therapy can help you build a gentler, more supportive relationship with yourself. Schedule a session today.

Peer-Reviewed References:

• Neff, K. D. (2003). Self-compassion: An alternative conceptualization of a healthy attitude toward oneself. Self and Identity, 2(2), 85–101.

• Sweezy, M., & Ziskind, E. L. (2013). Internal Family Systems Therapy—New Dimensions. Routledge.