Parenting with Internal Family Systems: A Self-Led Approach

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Written By Laura Geftman

Parenting Through Parts

When parenting feels overwhelming, protectors may react through anger, harsh discipline, or withdrawal. These responses often stem from exiled parts carrying past experiences of not feeling cared for.

Self-Energy in Parenting

IFS encourages parents to approach their inner world with curiosity. By engaging with protective and exiled parts, they can regulate their emotions and connect with children from a place of patience and love.

Practical Parenting Tools

In sessions, parents explore their triggers, dialogue with reactive parts, and practice Self-led communication. This helps them model emotional regulation and compassion for their children.

Benefits of IFS for Parenting

Parents often report reduced conflict at home, greater patience, and stronger bonds with their children. By caring for their own parts, they show up more fully for their family.

Call to Action
IFS therapy can support your healing journey. Book a session today.

References

  • Siegel, D. J., & Hartzell, M. (2013). Parenting from the inside out: How a deeper self-understanding can help you raise children who thrive. TarcherPerigee.

  • Schwartz, R. C., & Sweezy, M. (2019). Internal Family Systems Therapy (2nd ed.). Guilford Press.

Laura Geftman
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